EP 23: Raising Adults

Learn how to support and guide children into becoming highly capable and resilient adults. In this episode with author and educator Julie Lythcott Haims, Meg chats to Julie about how much parenting has changed over the years. You’ll hear about the effects of overparenting and how to help children transition into adulthood and pursue their true passions.

So what’s this episode really about?

  • How to raise confident, capable and resilient young adults.
  • How to guide young people to their own authentic path.
  • Re-thinking the idea of ‘success’ and allowing young adults the space and freedom to find what they’re genuinely passionate about.

Why you should listen

If you are a parent or work with children, teens or young adults, this episode is for you. Julie’s wisdom highlights the problematic levels of involvement, control and management adults can have in the lives of young people. When children don’t learn to build resilience, capacity or agency, the transition into adulthood becomes more challenging than it needs to be. There are so many insights in this episode that will prompt you to examine the ways you support and guide the young people in your life. You’ll walk away with tools and insights to help the children in your life shine brightly into adulthood.

Actionable Skills

  • Refrain from consistently jumping in to problem-solve for your child. Show empathy and support but allow them the time and space to solve their issues independently.
  • Allow your child to find success in an area that they are most inspired by and passionate about – not where you, or broader society, sees success.
  • Think about the messages you’re sending young people if you’re constantly rushing in to help and fix everything. You’re sending a message that you don’t think they can handle it solely.

You can quote us on that… 

“These parents who feel the need to intervene in the life of their ‘child’, also seem to have children…who are less capable. I didn’t quite understand the cause and effect until I had paid attention to it for a few years.”

Julie Lythcott-Haims

 “What happens to a human – let alone a generation of humans – if they lack agency?”

Julie Lythcott-Haims

“We think it’s ‘loving’ to offer this kind of help, to always be there, to always handle everything – of course we love them, and we think this is an extension of our love – but what it’s actually telling their developing adolescent brain is, ‘my parents don’t think I can do this’…it’s a terribly damaging set of messages to be sending an adolescent brain.”

Julie Lythcott-Haims


Kelly Corrigan – Books

GIST: The Essence of Raising Life-Ready Kids – Website

The Climb: A Mother & Son’s Journey to Acceptance – Listen


Julie Lythcott-Haims – Website | Books | Instagram | Facebook

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Hi, I'm Meg!

B.Phys Ed, M. Ed (Student Wellbeing), CIPP

I’m a teacher with experience working in primary and secondary schools across Australia, and a specialist in the field of wellbeing education and coaching. I founded Open Mind Education in 2013 with a vision of sharing practical, enriching wellbeing education with staff, parents, and broader school communities.

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