Ep 32: When Love Hurts

What is a respectful relationship, and how do you know if you (or your children) are in one? In this conversation, CEO of Enlighten Education Dannielle Miller shares the importance of healthy relationships and the consequences of domestic abuse. So get ready to feel empowered to make a difference and speak up where it’s needed most.

So what’s this episode really about

  • The elements of a respectful relationship and the ”green flags” to look for in your relationships.
  • The various types of domestic and family violence you may or may not be aware of.
  • The reasons why domestic abuse continues to perpetuate in our society and what we can do to resolve that.

Why you should listen

Did you know that one in three young people between the ages of 12 and 20 will report elements of their relationship as being abusive? It is proven that these early relationships can set the tone for adulthood, leading to these types of relationships later in life. And abuse is not limited to physical but also sexual, financial, verbal, digital surveillance, and so much more. Whether or not you have experienced domestic abuse in a relationship, friendship or working relationship, this conversation will help you see what’s going on on a wide scale and what actions you can take to build resilience and help those in need.

Know that help is available. 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) is a 24-hour national sexual assault family and domestic violence counselling line for any Australian who has experienced or is at risk of experiencing family and domestic violence or sexual assault.

Actionable Skills

  • Know the types of abuse: physical, verbal, financial, coercive control, damaged property, threats to pets, digital surveillance, and sexual.
  • Look for red flags in relationships: love bombing, drama, gradual build of abuse, controlling of behaviour. If you feel uncomfortable about something, no matter what it is, reach out for help.
  • Look for green flags in relationships: Someone who allows you to grow and change, someone who will cheer you on, someone you feel comfortable with, someone who gives you space, someone who allows you to set boundaries.

You can quote us on that…

“Often there will be seven serious incidents of abuse, on average, before someone will recognise that they are in a difficult relationship.”

Danniellle Miller

“We assume that adolescent relationships are pretty harmless; that it’s sort of puppy love. But in fact, that’s far from true.”

Dannielle Miller

“We have this belief that [women] are therapy for males. Or that it’s our job to shape them or make them. Not to necessarily be looking for a partner who is our emotional equal, or that we can grow emotionally together with.”

Dannielle Miller


Dannielle Miller – Website | LinkedIn | Instagram

Enlighten Education – Website | Instagram


MAID (Netflix series) – Watch

See What You Made Me Do (SBS series) – Watch

Women’s Community Shelters – Website

1800 Respect – Website

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  1. Meadow Cook on June 16, 2022 at 1:42 pm

    Very well presented. Every quote was awesome and thanks for sharing the content. Keep sharing and keep motivating others.

    • Meg on June 20, 2022 at 4:21 pm

      I am so glad you’re enjoying the podcast!

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